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CHAPTER THREE n FINDING HELP Force-Feeding Broccoli to a Teenager By Rob Fraser, MBA, NHA, President / Owner, Care To Stay Home As a teenager I did One thing is constant; just like the teen- choices and you will be the hero who not like broccoli. ager that resisted the broccoli, most peo- helped them get through their challenges. My mother would ple will resist when forced to do some- So when your mother needs help around try every strategy thing they do not want to do—even if it her house – what are you going to do? possible to try and is good for them! Smoking, overeating, When dad has several falls – how will you get me to eat the drinking too much, and a lack of exercise respond? When your parents forget to take nasty green sub- are all proof of this principle. their medication – what will your reaction stance. She tried As we age, our desire for freedom does be? These and many of life’s little chal- bribing me, pun- not change. In fact, our desire for freedom lenges will happen to you or someone you ishing me, taking may even become greater because of our love – so what is the solution? away privileges, and even tried hiding experiences with well-meaning adults that the broccoli in casseroles. She must have There are many professionals that try to restrict us. In fact, the very process read somewhere, probably in Reader’s can help. There are many community of aging takes away many of the freedoms Digest, that it was good for me … and so resources to choose from. Physicians, we once enjoyed. Pain, loss of hearing her quest to torture me began at a very nurses, social workers, home care agen- and eyesight, and our slow decline in early age. cies, home health agencies and care mobility are all ways we start to lose our managers that can be your support. Some As an adult, I learned that fresh broc- freedom. It’s no wonder our parents resist of these resources will even provide con- coli cut straight from the stem was both the changes we suggest. sultation and assessments for free. good for me and tasty—especially with So as you are thinking about how to help some ranch dressing smothered all over Don’t try and force-feed broccoli to a your aging parents, think twice about this it. I also learned that the torturous stuff teenager… just put it on the counter with sentence. Think about how you can help my mom called broccoli was an over- dip before dinner and it will disappear. them help themselves. Instead of trying cooked, over-frozen, over-cut version to convince your parents to do what you of this tasty vegetable. I learned that think is best for them, think about the when I could make broccoli on my own times you felt restricted and try to put terms, my own way, it was one of my yourself in their shoes. favorite things. Start by serving them, because this is how Our ability to choose is an innate human you show you love them. Next, listen right. We were given this right at birth to them—this is how you can show true and it cannot be taken from us until compassion and interest. Finally, ask how death. Taking away one’s freedom to you can help which shows empathy for choose seems to also be a human trait. their situation. “Do this or do that; live by this rule or another; live by my law, not by yours”. If you find something your parents need Parents, teachers, leaders, bosses, politi- or want, ask if they would be willing to cians, and a host of others play a role in meet with a professional to discuss their trying to take away the right to choose. At situation. Let the professional suggest times it may be “for our own good”, or at solutions and let your parents make the least profess to be. choices. You will be there to support their Care To Stay Home provides a unique care services to maintain the highest level of and individual commitment to each client. independent living and quality of life. Through our initial intake to the oversight For more information visit our website and ongoing management of each care at www.caretostayhomespokane.com. plan, we are dedicated to service our clients. Care To Stay Home can assist each client You may also contact us at: with a broad range of non-medical in home 509-340-1359. THE OPINIONS OFFERED IN THIS ARTICLE ARE FOR YOUR CONSIDERATION ONLY. TO FURTHER EXPLORE THIS TOPIC, THE PUBLISHER ENCOURAGES YOU TO CONTACT TRUSTED PROFESSIONALS. 102


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